#186 | Mainstream Psychology Can Go Fuck Itself: Managing Collapse Awareness w/ Holly Truhlar

In this episode, I speak with lawyer, grief therapist, and community builder Holly Truhlar. We discuss her provocatively titled essay ‘Mainstream Psychology Can Go Fuck Itself,’ which addressed the ways mainstream psychology, as it is currently practiced today, largely lacks the framework, language, and tools required to adequately counsel those that are coming into the growing awareness that the systems we are embedded within are leading to societal collapse, ecological disintegration, and abrupt climate disruption on the global scale.

Mainstream psychology “puts the onus on the individual and takes the focus off of the violent and divisive systems we’re in,”* which in turn disempowers the individual from preparing, in any meaningful sense, for what lies ahead as we begin to experience the impacts of a fraying socioeconomic and political system (mired in systemic oppression and corruption), the catastrophic loss of species (described as the Sixth Mass Extinction event), a radically changing climate system (as a result of industrialization), and the likely near-term extinction of the human species as a result of these converging crises. “As with all things capitalist, patriarchal, and committed to the growth of civilization, psychology is used mostly as a tool of the oppressor to keep us divided into individual causes rather than working in solidarity with our class structure.”* Holly, in her work, seeks to make use of the tools provided in mainstream psychology, and incorporate Radical Attunement Work (RAW), which cultivates "a deep awareness of people and systems in order to fundamentally shift exploitative ways of being towards reciprocal relationship, collective liberation, and communities of care.”** As Holly says in her essay “we don’t have time for this shit. We have a small window in which we MAY be able to learn the skills needed to co-regulate with each other and organize for the needed revolution (or end-of-life care for our species).” The stakes really are this high. We discuss this and more in this episode.

Holly Truhlar is a lawyer, grief therapist, and community builder. She’s integrated her doctorate in law with a masters in transpersonal counseling psychology to create a model for personal and collective liberation. This model, called Radical Attunement Work (RAW), moves people and groups from dominating and exploitative ways of being into attuned and transformational relationships. Her work lies at the convergence of ancestral grief, collective trauma, conscious collapse, and social justice. She’s currently practicing and researching social technologies, such as ritual and Deep Democracy work, that foster large-scale trauma resolution and collective nervous system regulation. She's been called to help hold grief in these troubled and transitional times, so she lives with her heart broken open and soul on display.***

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Episode Notes:

- Read Holly’s essay ‘Mainstream Psychology Can Go Fuck Itself’: http://bit.ly/2Uwfyjw

- Learn more about Holly and her work at: https://www.hollytruhlar.com

- Learn more about the Tending The Threshold conference: https://tendingthethreshold.com

- The song featured in this episode is “Guns Are Drawn” by The Roots from the album The Tipping Point.

#69 | The Bow That Is Stable: Wise & Knowledgeable Child Rearing w/ Darcia Narvaez, PhD

Darcia Narvaez is an explorer and visionary. She works as a professor of psychology at the University of Notre Dame where she studies flourishing and compassionate moral development and ecological attachment in children and adults. Her earlier careers include professional musician, business owner, classroom music teacher, classroom Spanish teacher and seminarian, among other things. She grew up bilingual/bicultural but calls the earth her home. She is the author or editor of dozens of books, chapters and articles. One of her recent books, Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality: Evolution, Culture and Wisdom won the William James Book Award from the American Psychological Association and from the American Education Research Association’s Moral Development and Education SIG. She is executive editor of the Journal of Moral Education. She is a fellow of the American Psychological Association and the American Educational Research Association. She also writes a popular blog for Psychology Today called “Moral Landscapes.”

Episode Notes:

- Follow and catch up on Darcia's work on her blog darcianarvaez.com as well as her university website www3.nd.edu/~dnarvaez

- Also check out Darcia's blog "Moral Lanscapes" in Psychology Today psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes

- For more information on Attachment Parenting, go to attachmentparenting.org and askdrsears.com

- Artwork Illustration by Kahlil Gibran.

- Features a section of The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, read by Daniel Gardner:

"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts, 
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, 
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, 
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, 
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, 
so He loves also the bow that is stable."

- Features  "Ann Arbor Part 3 & 4" by Shigeto and "Beautiful People" by The Books.